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Spanked With A Wooden Spoon

Spanked With A Wooden Spoon

Parents Wear Two Hats  Our most important responsibility as parents is to be an evangelist to our children. We are called to teach them the Gospel of Jesus Christ, the gospel of grace, and to invite them to surrender their lives to Jesus, trusting in his work on the cross and not their own righteousness. And we are to teach them to walk in the Spirit by the grace of God and not walk in the flesh. But, we also have been given the responsibility of a “magistrate” by God. We, as parents, are the “civil government” for the family. We are called to restrain evil in our family, and thereby create a just and peaceful family life in which the Gospel can be preached and lived out by who ever will respond. Spanking is one of the tools of discipline that we have to punish and restrain evil. Zero Tolerance for Disobedience, Disrespect, and Dishonesty We recommend “drawing a line”… a no-compromise line: zero tolerance for disobedience, disrespect, or dishonesty. For example, we didn’t permit our young children to say “no” to us. That word can tend to be a major expression of disrespect unless a line is drawn. Make it clear from the start that such things bring an automatic spanking. And then ask God for the courage and the competence to be consistent. And when the line is crossed by the child, spank the child with no further warnings. The trap all of us tend to get into is warning and warning and never really following through. Consistency means having the conviction to intervene and confront face-to-face EVERY time an example of disobedience, disrespect, or dishonesty is observed. Start Young  As soon as the child is old enough to know they’ve done wrong, we recommend starting some form of spanking. You can tell when it’s time. You can discern the situation. If you tell your child, “Don’t touch that lamp”, and they look at you and reach out and touch that lamp, you can tell if it is conscious disobedience and rebellion. For us, it was when they were around eighteen months of age. Spanking each of our children appropriately at a young age was such a blessing for us because, after about a year, the spankings got fewer and fewer. By the time they are five or six, it’s hard to remember the last time they were spanked. Of course each kid is going to be different. Wooden Spoon  It worked well for us to use a thin wooden spoon. We felt it to be safer than using our hand, though there were times we used our hand. With the hand there can be too much momentum. We would pull the pants down in the back and spank one, two, or three times on the bare bottom. The thin wooden spoon gives a sting without a large momentum impact. It was our view that the actual magnitude of the spanking was not so important. That is, we could afford to have the spanking be too mild rather than too severe, because it was the act of spanking that was the important thing, not the nature of the spanking itself. Spanking, Loving, Surrendering The moment there was an act of disobedience, disrespect, or dishonesty, we would tell the child they were going to get a spanking and why. We would often tell them to go get the spanking spoon and go upstairs to their room. Once in their room we would explain again why, give the spanking, and then evaluate if there was an attitude of surrender and humility or an attitude of defiance and rebellion. While evaluating the child’s attitude, we would hug our child and love our child and tell them we love them and tell them that Jesus loves them. If there was an attitude of rebellion, such as an arching of the back, or pulling away, etc., we would tell them they were going to get another spanking if they didn’t relent and surrender with a humble attitude. We would then administer another spanking in the same way as the first. Each time the child would be given an opportunity to express remorse and surrender. If necessary, this process would go on through numerous cycles, lasting forty minutes or more. It was important to us to never let go a continuing defiant attitude. Continuing until there is a humbling of the heart is of the utmost importance. When the child would surrender with a humble heart, we would encourage them to say “I’m sorry” to the Lord Jesus, but we wouldn’t force that. We would encourage them to receive Jesus’ forgiveness. We would then pray together. And we would pray that the Lord Jesus would help them with their problem and behavior and that the Lord would help Dad or Mom to be good parents. We would often acknowledge that we, as parents, often struggle with the same sins, and that Jesus “spanks” us, too. Using this time to discuss important things with the child is very valuable, teaching them what the Bible says about sin and repentance and walking with the Lord Jesus. We pray that our Lord Jesus would give every parent who trusts in him the grace and wisdom to properly apply spanking in love as a tool of discipline. If you have any questions or comments on this or any subject, please email Kim or Jim. Jesus loves the little children!
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Spanked With A Wooden Spoon

U.S. Home Crime Terrorism Economy Immigration Disasters Military Education Environment Personal Freedoms Regions Us California court rules spanking with wooden spoon not abuse Published October 09, 2013 Associated Press Facebook0 Twitter0 Email Print SAN JOSE, Calif. – A state appeals court on Tuesday tossed out child abuse findings against a frustrated Northern California mother who spanked her 12-year-old daughter hard enough with a wooden spoon to cause bruising. The 6th District Court of Appeal in San Jose reversed the child abuse determination made by the Santa Clara County Department of Social Services. Social workers waned to report Vernica Gonzalez to the state Department of Justice’s child abuse database with a “substantiated” abuse determination. That determination was upheld by a trial court judge. The appeals court said the spanking came close to abuse, but that social workers and the lower court judge failed to consider the family’s entire circumstances. Gonzalez and her husband testified that other forms of punishment such as groundings and taking away her phone had failed to persuade their 12-year-old daughter to do her schoolwork and avoid gang culture. The parents said that other family members had testified that spankings in the household were a rarity. The appeals court said the mother’s growing frustration with her daughter’s behavior and her intention not to inflict harm in the April 2010 spanking weighed heavily in its ruling. “Nothing in the record suggests the mother should have known she was inflicting bruises,” Justice Conrad Rushing wrote for the unanimous three-judge panel. Rushing continued that “the spanking was entirely the product of a genuine and deliberate disciplinary purpose, i.e., to arrest troubling behavior patterns exhibited by the daughter.” The court ordered the child abuse report to be withdrawn or Gonzalez given another hearing in which the San Jose family’s entire circumstances are considered and the spanking put into context with the parents’ growing frustration with a recalcitrant daughter. “We cannot say that the use of a wooden spoon to administer a spanking necessarily exceeds the bounds of reasonable parental discipline,” Rushing concluded. Advertisement
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Spanked With A Wooden Spoon

Us California court rules spanking with wooden spoon not abuse Published October 09, 2013 Associated Press Facebook0 Twitter0 Email Print SAN JOSE, Calif. – A state appeals court on Tuesday tossed out child abuse findings against a frustrated Northern California mother who spanked her 12-year-old daughter hard enough with a wooden spoon to cause bruising. The 6th District Court of Appeal in San Jose reversed the child abuse determination made by the Santa Clara County Department of Social Services. Social workers waned to report Vernica Gonzalez to the state Department of Justice’s child abuse database with a “substantiated” abuse determination. That determination was upheld by a trial court judge. The appeals court said the spanking came close to abuse, but that social workers and the lower court judge failed to consider the family’s entire circumstances. Gonzalez and her husband testified that other forms of punishment such as groundings and taking away her phone had failed to persuade their 12-year-old daughter to do her schoolwork and avoid gang culture. The parents said that other family members had testified that spankings in the household were a rarity. The appeals court said the mother’s growing frustration with her daughter’s behavior and her intention not to inflict harm in the April 2010 spanking weighed heavily in its ruling. “Nothing in the record suggests the mother should have known she was inflicting bruises,” Justice Conrad Rushing wrote for the unanimous three-judge panel. Rushing continued that “the spanking was entirely the product of a genuine and deliberate disciplinary purpose, i.e., to arrest troubling behavior patterns exhibited by the daughter.” The court ordered the child abuse report to be withdrawn or Gonzalez given another hearing in which the San Jose family’s entire circumstances are considered and the spanking put into context with the parents’ growing frustration with a recalcitrant daughter. “We cannot say that the use of a wooden spoon to administer a spanking necessarily exceeds the bounds of reasonable parental discipline,” Rushing concluded. Advertisement

Spanked With A Wooden Spoon

Spanked With A Wooden Spoon
Spanked With A Wooden Spoon
Spanked With A Wooden Spoon
Spanked With A Wooden Spoon